Menopause is a significant life transition that can impact relationships in various ways.

However, by having open communication, seeking professional help, maintaining physical intimacy, practicing self-care, adapting to changes, and educating themselves, couples can navigate this period successfully and strengthen their connections. The key is to approach this phase with understanding, patience, and mutual support, ensuring that the relationship remains resilient and fulfilling.

What are the most common causes that influence intimacy?

•Changes to or a decrease in estrogen levels can lead to vaginal dryness and discomfort during sex, reducing sexual desire and intimacy

•Hot flashes and night sweats can disrupt sleep, causing irritability and fatigue, which can affect interactions with partners

•Hormone fluctuations can lead to mood swings, anxiety, and depression, making communication and emotional connection very challenging

•Physical changes such as weight gain and aging can impact self-esteem, affecting how one interacts with their partner

•As children leave home and careers shift, both partners may struggle with changes in their roles and identities, leading to relationship stress. Increased stress and emotional volatility can hinder effective communication, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts

Our top tips for maintaining healthy connections

Encourage open discussions about feelings, fears, and expectations. This can help both partners understand each other’s experiences and needs. Practice active listening, ensuring that each partner feels heard and understood without judgement.

Maintain physical intimacy! Find non-sexual ways to maintain intimacy, such as cuddling, holding hands, and spending quality time together. Use lubricants or vaginal moisturisers to alleviate discomfort during sex and enhance sexual pleasure.

Most importantly, support each other by showing empathy and support for each other’s challenges, reinforcing a sense of
partnership and mutual care.

Seek professional help

Couples therapy can provide a safe space to explore relationship dynamics and develop strategies to manage conflicts or consult healthcare providers for managing menopause symptoms.

Good reads:

1. Come as you are
“An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.”

2. Mating in captivity
“Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.”

3. The 5 Love Languages
“Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?”